Change is not easy. That is what I found out, especially if you want to go public with your ideas. I started OSR with the idea of helping others while I help myself. But I soon found out that along the way there are going to be more than just personal changes within. I realize that any time you start to step outside your box people will jump all over you.
You may or may not have heard this theory, but you are the average of the five closest people around you. You talk to those people about the same things, you have the same hobbies, you make the same wages, and your materialistic things are mostly the same, such as your car, house, or style of clothes. If you take a second and stop to think about it you’ll realize that it is very true. I thought of this many times. I truly fit that to a “T.” I enjoy my friends, we watch Packer games, we go to restaurants we all enjoy, and we laugh at the same type of humor.
When you start to personally change for the better does that go over well with the people who are in this average with you? Let me break down the three types of people that may or may not care about your personal change.
The three types of people are:
Supportive – You are always going to have a few people stand behind you on anything you want to do in life. Mostly it will be family and a few friends (until you realize they are just saying they are supportive and you find out later they are jealous.)
Supportive people are the ones you need to focus on when you encounter a change within your new life. Examples of change would be getting out of a bad relationship, changing jobs, following your passion or goals that don’t seem ideal to everyone else, losing lots of weight, or making spiritual and mental change. You will realize over time that this group of supportive people will become your rock.
My personal supportive people are my family. I have never been more in love with my family until now. Since I started this project my family has been behind me 100% of the time. They have given me needed space and time to do the podcast and other things relating to this project.
The only downfall with supportive people is that they are not going to give you 100% honest feedback. They will always give you encouragement without suggesting ways to improve.
Don’t care people – It’s as simple as that they don’t care if you change, stay the same, decide to move, or decide to stay; they are just people in passing. These are the kinds of people that just don’t really care about the outcome of your own life. They might have so much going on in their own lives that their issues are all they care about.
Jealous people – We all know this type of people. We have them as our friends, co-workers, and even family. Most of the time we know who they are, but sometimes they are undercover.
The best way for me to break this down is to give you a very personal story about one of my friends. I was good friends with this guy named Joe. Joe and I would work out daily, play sports together, watch games and movies together, and travel together. We were known as best friends. As the years passed I started to do some personal soul searching and figuring out my next steps in my life plan. During my searching I did not share the things I learned about myself, inventions or ideas running through my head, or even things I purchased. I don’t know why I held this in but I felt that Joe would not understand, so I just kept him out of the loop. Time passed. I had my child and Joe and I really started to separate. Joe and I just did not have the same common ground we had once had. We both realized that was OK and kept on doing our own thing. It wasn’t until I started Operation Self Reset that things really took a step toward the worst.
When he first found out about Operation Self Reset Joe was supportive. I posted a few YouTube Videos and other things on the website. That is when Joe really changed. He stopped calling and when we had time to talk about it he asked if I was doing this to become better than him. I was shocked. That is why I said before that people who seem supportive can sometimes be in the jealous category.
I am not one to ditch friendships and move on, so Joe and I were able to talk it out. I am not going to say that everything now is back to where it used to be but he understands my position and mindset.
I bring this up to share with you that during times of change you will encounter roadblocks and people calling you out on things that you never even thought of. The best advice I can say is keep on moving ahead. I really enjoy Joe and I am saddened that our friendship has changed, but during my own progression I have met and become friends with so many more people. I stepped outside the box and along the way I lost a few people but I have gained so much more. If you are not willing to change for yourself even when you know you should you are shortchanging yourself on so many great things. Like Nike says, “Just Do It.”
Change is not easy but you have it within.