The Doubt Man lives inside all of us. He stays quiet most of the time, just living there in our minds. The Doubt Man has a small control center with only a few buttons. He has a loudspeaker that he turns on when he has a suggestion or comment. That feeling in your gut when you question a decision—yes, he has a button for that.

Most importantly, he has only a small amount of power over your body.  You know that feeling when you want to do something but you keep pulling back—yes, that’s the Doubt Man.

One more thing: He hates big risk. Imagine your legs are sitting outside a small airplane. You are strapped to an experienced jumper. You look down and see your feet dangling with nothing below them. You look at the horizon and think, oh my, I am really doing this. That is when the Doubt Man pulls the emergency button. First he pushes the stomach button. Your gut starts turning, you become nauseous, and you want to puke, but you know you have not eaten in eight hours. Next he starts shouting into the speaker. Asking you questions: Why are you doing this? This airplane is perfect, why jump? You might die. Don’t, don’t, don’t do it, PLEASE. As a last ditch effort, he will try to lock up your body. He can see that your hands are holding onto the insides of the sliding hatch on the airplane. He will use his power to try to clamp your hands so you don’t jump.

So how do we get rid of him? We can’t. He will never leave, but there is a technique that does work. It’s self-talk. Self-talk is basically your inner voice, the voice in your mind which says things that you don’t necessarily say out loud. Often self-talk happens without your even realizing it and can be a subtle running commentary going on in the background of your mind. But what you say in your mind can determine a lot of how you feel about who you are.

The only proven way to quiet the Doubt Man is self-talk. When the Doubt Man starts pulling and pushing you in a certain way, that is when you start your self-talk. You need to say three things to start to quiet him down.


They are:

  1. I can
  2. I love myself
  3. I want to do it

If you say those three things over and over you will start to quiet the Doubt Man. He will still be with you until the day you die so you have to understand him and find what works. As of now the only proven method is self-talk.



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